When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong

Being authentic as a leader is hard.

The pressures of performing, being liked and strategically navigating office politics will eventually get to you.

But fake it ‘till you make it is bad advice.

So how do you be yourself while still getting the job done?

I’m glad you asked.

• It starts with self-awareness.

• Know your strengths and weaknesses.

• Leverage your strengths consistently to reveal your leadership style.

• Your style is what others can expect of you.

• Providing expectations instead of surprises helps people feel safe around you.

Now the way you lead may not connect with everyone.

And that’s okay.

But your responsibility as a leader is to create the optimal environment for your people to succeed.

Which means sometimes you alter your approach to effectively serve others.

So where do I draw the line between being authentic and a chameleon?

Leading with authenticity prioritizes developing others at the same time staying true to yourself.

• Areas such as values, beliefs and boundaries are off-limits. Stay grounded on those.

• But categories like methods, technology, preferences, etc. can be evaluated through trial and error to test what works best.

Keeping it real can go wrong when your pride/ego (aka being stubborn) is the driver.

It’s acceptable to change your tactics as a leader (without compromising who you are) to get the job done.

In fact, in many instances that is the right move.

But let’s close with what matters most.

Make sure you’re grounded as a leader.

Translation: know yourself.

If you don’t know who you are as a leader how will anyone else?

That’s why authenticity starts with self-awareness.

You can’t lead others until you start leading yourself first.

If that’s elusive to you, I highly recommend the CliftonStrengths Assessment (Top 5 option).

Once you identify your strengths you can be intentional about how you lead.

It’s an assessment I took 15+ years ago, taken hundreds of clients through since, but most of all still utilize My Top 5 daily!

(Relator, Individualization, Maximizer, Arranger & Strategic - in case you were wondering)

Leadership is a tough journey regardless, but knowing your style as a leader will provide you peace in the midst of the storms.

After taking the CliftonStrengths if you want more guidance on how to apply your results reply to this email or request 1:1 or group coaching.

Leading with your strengths is also a favorite speaking topic/workshop I’ve done (you can also check out other popular talks here).

Hope this helps and God Bless,

Scott